“When Abigail saw David, she quickly got off her donkey and bowed down before David with her face to the ground.” – 1 Samuel 25:23, NIV
David had spent months looking out for Nabal’s shepherds. He made sure they were safe and well-cared for when they were in the fields.
So when David is in need, he calls on Nabal. He thinks that surely the other man will pay him a kindness since he’s been faithful. Sadly though, Nabal speaks harshly and refuses to provide David or his men with any aid.
Angry, David gathers an army. He intends to wipe out the whole household. But while he’s still on the path, Abigail comes to meet him. She arrives with humility, begging for grace.
“Please pay no attention, my lord, to that wicked man Nabal. He is just like his name—his name means Fool, and folly goes with him. And as for me, your servant, I did not see the men my lord sent.” (1 Samuel 25:25, NIV)
Sometimes, the people who should ask for grace, don’t. They’d rather stubbornly cling to their pride than admit any wrongdoing. Depending on the situation, you may want to respond like Abigail.
Go forward and apologize to the wronged party on your loved one’s behalf. This can stem the flow of anger and resentment toward your family.
Lord, give me wisdom when I’m dealing with someone that’s hot-headed. Show me how to handle the situation humbly. In Jesus’ name, Amen.